When I started working at South Point, there was a guy of roughly low 40's. He was a really nice guy. And he married a cousin of a dealer who wanted to come to America, mail order-bride style as opposed to pay me and I'll marry you. I thought it was pathetic. She was 21, and he was 40-something. I thought it was ridiculously pathetic, and I couldn't imagine ever being so sad and pathetic. My dad is now doing the same thing. He's 50, and he's marrying a 28 year old Philippina who wants to come here. Of course I was thinking this was equally pathetic. Another guy at work(31), he's thinking of the same thing! I'm starting to rethink my stance.
The past four years have been rough for me. And recent experiences are just culminating in even worse events. I'm a damn great catch if I do say so myself. And my standards aren't ridiculously high. I don't even go for the prettiest girl in the room. I have a style that I look for above all else. I want someone comparable to me. I'm not a large guy by any means. I don't want anyone ridiculously larger than me, and I don't want anyone ridiculously smaller than me either. I have fairly realistic standards for what I'm looking for. If anything(according to everyone who knows me), my standards are kinda below me even. I'm starting to think the above mentioned are not pathetic at all. I'm starting to think maybe even, they have the right idea.
But why would someone from another country be a good idea? Is the problem american girls? With that thought in mind, I googled "american girls are retarded". Yes, I was a bit bitter(Sorry women reading this!). And one of the Yahoo! answers that showed up in the results had a much more PC verion of the question. "Why are Romanian, Ukrainian, and Russian girls friendly,compared with American girls?" His question goes into more depth, but that was the gist of it. And I actually like the answer which I'll quote here
There are a few facts being overlooked here.
1. Simple mathematics. The former Soviet world has been left with a dearth of men. Population statistics show that in former Soviet countries, there are 5 women for every 4 men. Now, if you consider the number of men in military service and/or off the market for any other reason, you'll quickly be able to surmise the low prospects for the average woman. ANY man is worth your attention in these conditions.
2. By contrast, Americans are generally overweight, poorly dressed, loud, and frankly... irritating. So for the few good-looking women there is a LOT of competition. The result is, women become the desired commodity in the US, they have all the cards, and they use them shrewdly.
3. Couple that with the American culture of equal rights to the point of absurdity. Americans are being taught that women can do anything men can do, which makes American women take a negative stance toward men. Every girl grows up being told they're a little princess and they'll meet their prince and have a beautiful wedding... and on the other hand they're told not to let a man open a door for them, not to allow him to pay for their dinner, don't accept less pay, etc. The unfortunate result is that they all want a prince charming, but they've taken away all the princely traits, so in the end, no one can ever be good enough.
It makes me feel a little better. At least there's some kind of explanation as to why I can't seem to find anyone. I think I'd be better off if I tried less. At least then, it would definitely make sense.